Actually, men need feelings too (5000 word Reddit essay)

> Women want partners, not emotional dependents Ok? Men do too, no one likes having someone trauma dump themselves onto them and having to meet every emotional need of another person. Singling this out like it's a women only problem is weird > Reframe how you look at this or your potential mates are going to continue to date older guys not only because we have more money, but because we don't dump our problems in their laps. There's two things wrong here. First, the idea that younger women are dating older guys because they don't want to deal with emotional baggage is just a hypothesis without testing. Social and economic security and stability could easily be just as much as a factor Second, the idea that a someone isn't able to dump their problems onto their partner is kind of antithetical to how a relationship works. You tend to reveal your biggest and deepest issues to those close to you. Now sharing your emotions and problems and siccing them onto them are two very different things but again this isn't male exclusive, as a guy, I've left relationships for this very reason. Men should get a therapist if they have access and can afford one, they should have friends who they can connect with and share issues, they should have older men whether a father or simple male role model who they can discuss these things with. Most people aren't equipped to handle all of that and it's common to share different things with different people close to you. There are things I would tell my girlfriend who I wouldn't tell anyone else just as there are things I would tell my therapist and wouldn't tell my girlfriend or other friends. Acting as if men can't reveal their stresses and emotions to a woman and must a be a steel beam of strength and stoicism is just perpetuating the toxic male stereotypes that so many already deal with